5 Steps To Attracting Your Goals Faster

Natasha Graziano

Thank you so much for having me, Tom. It’s such a pleasure to be here with you guys today, and really is a very special summit. So thank you.

Tom McCarthy

Yeah, so there’s a lot of people that wanna learn from you today. You obviously are a shining example, still a young lady, but there was a point in time where things weren’t working out. Tell us a little bit of your story.

Natasha Graziano

So, four years ago, I went through the worst year of my life. Four years ago, I found myself bedbound and homeless. It started with me going down a bad spiral of taking the wrong turns in my career, ending up in 250,000 in debt, feeling suicidal, anxious, and all of those anxieties intentions and things I was going through in my life led me to the place I was of being homeless, which then led me to being bedbound with an illness. When I was bedbound with an illness, I realized the only place you can look Tom is within yourself. There is nothing to see outside other than looking within, you are forced to make some new choices, new decisions, and build new habits. And from that place of darkness, from that place of being alone, feeling suicidal, feeling like there is no way out for me, I realized if I can transform this negative energy into a positive light and spread that light around the world, I can not only heal myself, I’ll be a role model for my son. 

I can get off the street, I can become an amazing mother, but guess what? I can go on and share with the world how I healed. And I knew if I was to focus on my healing, focus on the person I wanted to become, even though in your darkest time, it is so hard to focus on that version of you, when all you see around you is sickness, when all you see around you is pain, when all you see around you is negativity and toxic people, and then you realize actually there is something I can do to change this. I’ve gotta look at the man in the mirrors as Michael Jackson said, and I’ve gotta change myself first and there and behold was born the MBS method, which is meditational behavioral synchronicity.

Tom McCarthy

Yeah, and so you said you were bedridden for a while. Is that correct? And by the way it’s fascinating, I thought this would be like 10 years ago or 14 years ago, but literally only four years ago you were going through this. So you were in bed, you didn’t have any energy, and then you told me something really interesting though. You said that you took the healing upon yourself. So, and I was just talking with Tony Robbins recently, and he was talking about being the CEO of your health. You became the CEO of your health and you decided that you were going to create whatever methodology and we’re gonna dive into part of it now, but you were gonna create a methodology where you could heal. That was really fascinating. And you said literally all these things you’re experiencing were because of, I think you said trauma or the pain you were feeling, it was all because of something that was stuck inside of you, that you had the power to release. Is that correct?

Natasha Graziano

Absolutely, I realized inside of us is just, we are energy, right? We can never destroyed et cetera. Now, realize the words I’m saying that we can never actually be destroyed. It is inside of us, whatever we give out, it comes out of ourselves. Your thoughts become your reality, your feelings become your habits, your habits become you. So what thoughts are you thinking? Because whatever you are believing about yourself, you are a direct reflection of your inner self beliefs outside of you, around you, whatever you are experiencing in your opportunities, your people around you, the places around you, all of this is because of what you truly believe inside of you. And it could be stored bad energy because let tell you a super positive frequency or a super negative frequency, it doesn’t matter which one, either one will come to manifestation and it’ll come to manifestation through a circumstance in your life. And I realize my God, I really am thinking negatively. Of course, because I was so depressed and lonely and ill, but when you are in that place, I took it upon myself and said, I can heal this. There was something inside of me. So I looked at where the issue was, okay, these two places. And I went within and I said, “There’s something around the throat shack, or there’s something around the throat.” I’m trying to speak, I’m in the wrong place in my life, I’m trying to share. I was doing a career which didn’t serve the world. 

I knew I needed to be helping people. I knew I needed to come out of my old field and go into a field that was genuinely giving life to other people, that was gonna help other people go to where they want to the same way that I did. Within one year, I healed myself. I was told Natasha, you’ll be on medication for life. I thought my heart would give in. I was on heart medication by this point. And there’s all sorts of heart disease in my family as well. So I thought, well, hereditary wise, I’m headed that route anyway, and now I have this illness. It’s only a matter of time. And I sat and when you finally surrender to that feeling truthfully, when you finally give into the idea that I’m not scared of death anymore, I am not scared of what could happen, all of a sudden you start to heal because you’re no longer worrying. And it’s the worry inside of you combined with the trauma of the thing you’ve been through that is coming out in physical pain in your body, whether you are hit with physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual pain, it is the universe or God telling you, “Honey, you’re going in the wrong direction.” I was going in the wrong direction.

Tom McCarthy

So true, now, that really is what it is and when people start to realize that they really have the power to heal, when they don’t understand that they feel like a victim. So great job, that’s amazing. So I love your passion, by the way . You’ve got so much passion. So now tell us about MBS. Tell us about this methodology that you created.

Natasha Graziano

Okay, the MBS method for anybody that hasn’t seen, it’s been talked to over 2 million people, now nearly 2.1 million people.

Tom McCarthy

Nice.

Natasha Graziano

Have healed 150,000 people who have had… We’ve had the most incredible testimonials and the powerful part of why the MBS method is so good is ’cause it helps you remove the main limiting belief that is inside of you, that is stopping you, guess what? Not just from healing physically, but from healing every area of your life. It helps you in any area because it isn’t about having loads of limiting beliefs. It’s actually comes down to one main limiting belief that you are storing inside of you, and when you find it, when you go deeper and you look within and you ask yourself, “What is it that is blocking me from healing, from becoming the best version of me,” that little voice inside will come through your inner child. And it will answer to you. And my MBS method helps you to go deeper instantly. They call it three years of therapy in 15 minutes. It’s been written about multiple times in that way, because it helps you break through. 

You go deeper into alter states of awareness. The MBS method combines ancient breeding techniques with modern day neuroscience, okay? And you put all this together in an altered state of awareness when your brainwaves are slower and your mind is more impressionable. And all of a sudden, your subconscious mind starts to allow in new ideologies, new suggestions, and you can change what you’re thinking. You can change it at a root level. So you remove the old limiting belief that was inside of you, which sounds like, “I don’t feel worthy of, or I’m unworthy of.” Oh, every time I work with clients, they think it’s, “Well, he doesn’t like me,” it’s external, it’s them, or, “Oh, I don’t really like money.” 

Wait for it, inside of you, you don’t feel worthy of financial abundance in your life, or you don’t feel worthy of health, something inside of you is stopping you from actually going to the next level of your life. If you want to change your out of reality, you’ve gotta work on your inner reality. What is going on inside of you? And I worked on that. And I realized the MBS method was that, that healed me. It took me from being broke, I had not a penny to my name. I started doing the MBS method every day, 30 days later. In fact, it was 21 days besides, 21 days later, but I say within 30, I started getting money being paid for my work that I’d started to do. And all of a sudden, I transformed that first $150 into an eight figure business within one year.

Tom McCarthy

Wow.

Natasha Graziano

Within one year and anyone can do this.

Tom McCarthy

Yeah, it’s so true. I mean, the only limitations we really have are the ones that we put on ourselves. And I love the fact that you talk about going inside because that is where answers are. And it feels a little bit like your imagination, which I’ve been taught over the years that it feels like imagination, but it’s real, they’re real answers. They can take you exactly to where your pain is and they can give you the solutions, you can call on energies outside of you to help to. It’s so fascinating. And I know you’re going to give away something really special. We’ll talk about that at the end, but it’s hard for me to even look at you and imagine that you can take all this energy that we’re feeling and calm yourself, but this methodology must be very powerful. So it uses breathing and then it also uses-

Natasha Graziano

Meditation.

Tom McCarthy

Meditation, okay, interesting.

Natasha Graziano

So in an altered state of awareness, when you’re really relaxed and your brainwaves are much slower, what happens is you’re more impressionable. And so at that place, we remove the limiting belief inside of us, and then we anchor in, when we are deeper in that altered state of awareness, the new belief that you want to achieve, which is I am worthy of being loved. I am worthy of financial abundance, I’m worthy of healing. And once you accept what you’ve been through, and then you release this limiting belief inside of you, you will heal and have the best life, you’ll come out the other side feeling amazing and knowing this helped you. And even if you don’t use my MBS method, use something like NLP or a form of something that really takes you deeper into an altered state of awareness, into a place where you can actually remove it at a subconscious level, don’t try and remove it only in a conscious state. You want to really impress it into your subconscious mind.

Tom McCarthy

Absolutely, I’m a huge believer of that. My new book’s all a lot about that. So we’re on the same wavelength. We might have already covered it, but what’s the ultimate tip you give, ’cause I know people all over the world are looking to you for advice and you have 10 million followers on your Instagram. Like if you give someone that one ultimate tip to attracting anything they want, what would it be?

Natasha Graziano

Okay, the ultimate tip is this. I’m gonna give it to you in five parts. Write this down. This is honestly the best five-step process. I’ve used it every time I manifested the love of my life through this method, I got married last year, I manifested in three weeks guys. Yeah, girls I know. And then I healed myself with the same thing using the MBS. Are you ready for it? Five tips. One, get clarity on what you want, know exactly what you want. When I ask you, what is it that you want? When I ask all my clients, so many people say, “Oh, I don’t know.” That is not the clear answer that you want. Tesla said the Tesla method that you would write your statement down, know exactly what it is you want, okay. And then you would read it aloud three times in the morning, six times at lunchtime, nine times before bed. 

This is the Tesla method, it is a very proven method, 3-6-9 method, but more or less, even if you don’t bother doing the method, just know what it is that you want. Get clarity on that vision, put it on a statement, stick it in your wallet, put it in your purse girls and just know who you are and what you want to achieve. Step one, step two, remove the self limiting beliefs in the blockages that are standing in your way from achieving your ultimate goals, from manifesting whatevers you want. And I just talk through how to do that with the MBS method. Again, you can use NLP, use any other thing you want, my MBS method we just have used many times for so many different people. Seen people come out of debt, 300,000 in six months. We’ve seen people manifest babies. 

We’ve seen marriages come together, the most beautiful things. And I’ve even gone through many different things myself. I didn’t know that I wasn’t able to have a child. And then I got pregnant and all these things happened. Same thing, the MBS method will help you with that. That’s how you remove a limiting belief. Number three, is replace the old self limiting belief with a new belief about yourself. And you need to really affirm that, okay? You gotta accentuate the positive Aretha Franklin said, you’ve got to focus on that positive belief and be it until you become it. So even if you feel sad, even if you feel down one day, that’s okay, but you don’t need to go to bed, go to sleep, wake up the next day to feel good because you’re having a bad day. No, you’ve gotta change and shift the energy right there and then. You’ve gotta go and do something, take a little stretch, do a little walk, do some yoga, watch something funny, have a cuddle with your child, your grand babies, whatever it is, do something that makes you feel good, okay? Because that will help you imprint that main new belief. And that is so powerful, that’s step three. 

Step four is expand your vision. Expand your vision means use a vision board, use anything that is gonna make you connect to this vision of step one more. What is it? What is it you want? Use people to expand your vision. Use people around you who have already achieved your goal. Surround yourself in summits like this. Get into programs, get into masterminds, surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals who have already achieved your goal, or are one step up above. The best thing I ever did was getting myself a mentor and getting myself into programs because then I was committing to the change and having accountability partners and being around people who had already done it rather than old friends who were struggling to understand that we both came from the same place and I went somewhere different. Step five, take inspired action. Take inspired action. Inspired action creates motivation, momentum and change. Inspired action creates motivation, momentum, change. Those are my five tips.

Tom McCarthy

Those are awesome. What’s your definition of inspired action, right? As she’s getting ready to drink, I ask her another question. I’m supposed to be talking a little longer now, ’cause I really believe a lot of people are taking action, but they’re not really getting to where they wanna go. Inspired action to me is almost like guided action where the wind is at your back. Your intuition is kind of guiding you what actions to take, ’cause there’s lots of actions people can take in a day. What does inspired action mean to you?

Natasha Graziano

That’s beautiful, you’ve you actually nailed it. It is what feels in alignment with your purpose and your goal. So inspired action for me is when, suddenly I get a phone call saying like yesterday, John Zastrow called me at like off the cuff midday, “Natasha, hey, do you wanna come a coach on my program? They already wanna meet you and ask questions.” I was like, “Yeah, of course, let’s go.” That’s inspired action me saying yes. So, literally I’m sitting by the pool. I’ve taken the afternoon off because I’ve had to fly out, I’m not even in my own home. I’m still not back in my own home. I’m doing things which are out of the equation, which you usually would go, no, no, no. That’s outta my comfort zone to say, “Yes, I don’t have my studio lighting, I don’t have this.” Of course, I just said yes. And offer went with a few hundred top level entrepreneurs and started coaching. And so what was powerful about that? 

That’s inspired action, saying yes to something that pops into your journey, okay? Then another day you get something else that presents itself, an opportunity to potentially go and fly somewhere where you can go and coach many people, or maybe you’ve got a sales business. You can go and meet new sales reps, whatever it might be. You need to focus on things which are in alignment. Let me give you some science behind this. This will blow your mind for anyone who wants to understand what inspired action in a scientific neuroscience way, what it means. Okay, so there’s a part in your brain called the reticular activating system. It filters 2 million bits of data every second, colors and sounds and things that you see, not your smell and it shows you whatever you deem as important. So what do you deem as important? Anything that you focus your mind on is what it deems as important. 

So if you are focusing your mind on exciting new opportunities and great things, you’re gonna see evidence around you and people, in places, in events, in circumstance that take you closer towards your goal, because that is reticular activating system showing you evidence to prove your new belief system is real. But if you are focusing on bad things and negative things happen to you, your reticular activating system is gonna keep showing you evidence around you in people, places, things, and events that represent that belief system. So get an alignment and know your brain wants to work for you. And then when you see the action present itself, take it.

Tom McCarthy

Yeah, and it was a really important point. And that’s why people get very strong in their beliefs. And for instance, an election, you know there’s two candidates and people really like candidate A and other people like candidate B, they’re looking at the same election, but they’re not seeing the same things. Their reticular activating system is basically picking up ’cause you know their story, and I tell people, you don’t see with your eyes, you see with the story you have inside yourself, you don’t hear with your ears, you hear with your story. So that’s a beautiful example. You know, one thing that’s really important and you’ve done it, you’ve done it in a very short period of time is surrounding yourself with the right kind of people. I’ve been very fortunate in that. 

I moved out to California in my twenties to help run Tony Robbins company, ever since then, he’s been a friend, the people that even from way back then were friends of mine. And I get to hang out with all sorts of people that I coach billionaires, CEOs, people running big businesses. And so, it’s hard even to relate to maybe who I was before that when I didn’t have those people around me, ’cause I just have people continually, they’re not doing it consciously, but just continually challenging me to think bigger as they go bigger. But somebody that doesn’t have that, how can they find that type of network? Maybe just, way lot of people are doing now is your Instagram, being able to feed off you, have you in their network, but what ideas do you have for people to really expand their network? Because when they are stuck in a situation they don’t like, and they’re typically around people that are kind of stuck in those same situations and they find it hard to lift themselves up out of that. What advice do you have on that?

Natasha Graziano

Okay, so you know what I did when I was laying down flat, the craziest thing of all, I opened an Instagram page. Why did I do that? Because it was taking my mind off my problem and looking at other people’s ’cause a lot people post on social media is not always true. And then you get to see other people’s problems. And when you focus on other things, otherwise you can help charities on there, you can see everything going on online, just looking outside of the world. So I took it upon myself to create this page. So I’d started my healing process, doing my MBS, working on my mindset. You work on your mindset, you get your message straight and then you scale it onto social media, three parts of this process. So I looked at startling by this point, cause I looked inward, understood where I wanted to do, knew who I wanted to be, and I started going on Instagram posting. 

Why did I do that? Because I knew if I can build myself up, I can then not only go from being a coach now who can share this story of this MBS method and how it’s healed me. I can go on and give this method and leave it as a legacy thereafter I’m gone. So even when I’m not around, it’s not about Natasha Graziano, this is about the MBS method going on to help people for hundreds and hundreds of years thereafter, that is a true legacy. You wanna create your network? Why do I say Instagram? Because I’ve built it to 10 million followers in just a few years and you can do that too. How did I create that? Because I understood the power of social media and I understood if you follow strategic steps and you get it growing in the right way and you get your name out there in the world, you’ll get invites all over the place to go on top podcasts. I now have a top 10 podcast, I host some really cool guests and get to go on really cool shows. You get on big publications and magazines, but why is that beneficial? Because it’s spreading my mission. It’s helping my mission reach more people. It’s helping everything that I believe in and this good energy I wanna spread around the world. It helps to get projected out there. So that’s how you network with good people. 

Let me give you one final drop on that, which someone’s gonna love. I knock on somebody’s door, which means a digital door. So on Instagram, you’ve got a DM, right? A direct message. That is the new door. So when you knock on a door on Instagram, you say, “Hi, my name’s Natasha. I’ve got a blue tick, millions of followers next to my name.” Guess what? They opened the door up to you. That’s how I met Steve Aoki. That’s how I met Dr. Demartini. That’s how I met the co-founder of Netflix and on and on and it goes. This is how you get forwards and you get ahead. You don’t wait for opportunity to fall into your lap, you look for it. You open doors for yourself and if you have hundreds of thousands of followers next to your name, guess what? When you say knock, knock on a DM, they open the door with wide open arms because you are offering value before you even ask for anything. Because anything they do with you is gonna reach your thousands or hundreds of thousands of followers. So grow your page, grow your name. Once you understand that you are gonna feel better, it will help you become that version of you knowing you’re gonna heal and get that.

Tom McCarthy

Well, Natasha, what do you say to people that go, “Oh my gosh, I don’t have anything close to her energy. Will this work for me?” Like do people have to have your level of energy and charisma for the MBS method to work? Or can it work for anybody.

Natasha Graziano

It can work for anybody. Most of my clients are… Everyone’s so different, but most of them are so different to me, opposite to me in many ways. But I’ll tell you what we all do have in common. And that is the desire to heal, the desire to be better, the desire to be a better person. And this method goes internally. So I don’t use my big speaking voice when I’m on stage. I come in here and I use my soft meditational voice and we go on a journey. And when I take you on that journey, you’re gonna feel something different. You’re gonna shake out that bad energy. There’s no way other than feeling better from doing something like the MBS method, it will work for anybody at any stage of your life, no matter where you are, if you’re at the beginning of your journey, you’re already really achieved and accomplished, you’re an eight figure entrepreneur or nine figure entrepreneur. I’ve got 10 figure entrepreneurs that I work with. It doesn’t matter where you are and what you’re doing. We all wanna be better people. And we all have something we need to let go of.

Tom McCarthy

Yeah, and I love it. Hey, give us a sneak peek into your book, “Be it Until You Become it.” It’s not out yet, but people can pre-order it now. Is that correct?

Natasha Graziano

Absolutely, I’ve been writing this for years. It’s my baby, it’s my passion. It’s truly about, my team, my publisher only just made me put my photo on it. I have the book without my face again. My second book without my face. I love just putting titles and I finally guys have parse. So you’ll see it’s me on there. You’ll know it’s me this time, but “Be it Until you Become it” is about you becoming the version of you. You wanna become before you get there. So that is what woman, what man, what person do you want to be before you actually start doing it? I hate the saying, “Fake it till you make it.” That used to wipe me up the cookie club. I’d be like, “Oh, it just makes me feel like not good.” Be it until you become it is you being your authentic self, but being that version of you in your thoughts, your feelings and your actions before you become them, because that makes it come faster from the universe. When you start behaving like the multimillionaire you wanna be, when you start behaving like the healed version of you, you wanna be and you quit moaning and quit playing the victim, you go from victim to Victor, you shift your energy. This book is a combination of neuroscience and ancient wisdom and where it meets.

Tom McCarthy

That’s awesome, where can people pre-order it?

Natasha Graziano

You can pre-order it at be-it-until-you-become-it.book.com. And when you pre-order it, guess what you get with it, which is so cool, you will get a free program, a Be it Until You Become it program. So you can actually learn what I’m talking about. All the science behind it, how to tap into those parts of your brain, how to rewire your brain, how to get into the spirit of being the new you, how to really, you are having a bad day and you want accountability partner, just press play on the video. The video’s gonna wake you up and go, “Okay, I can do this, I can do this.” Cause you know what? Before I go on stage, I listen to the top motivational male speakers in the world ’cause those are the ones I grew up listening to like Denzel Washington and many of these, and I listen because that gets me in pouts. When I go on the stage and I go and serve and I go and talk and share my knowledge, I’m already in that energy. So I would love to share my energy with you.

Tom McCarthy

Yeah, absolutely. So be-it-until-you-become-it-book.com, is that correct? And you get a free course when you pre-order the book. That’s awesome, I know it’s gonna be an amazing book. And then also now is this the same thing that you told me before that they can go and get the five step method? Or is that something different that they can get from you?

Natasha Graziano

So the five steps to achieving your goals, which I told you guys a little bit about earlier works for every area of your life. And it is also a beautiful five module program. It’s actually valued at 500, but I’m giving it to you guys for free because you’ve shown up here today. It’d be my pleasure to give you this beautiful program completely for free. You just download it on the link and there it is. The video just appears and it’s module 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, module 2 will change your life, it is the most profound video that you will ever watch. It is the MBS method, okay. It’s literally what I’ve spoken about in the MBS method. You do it live. So if you’re like, “What is this MBS?” video two, that is the one you wanna go to that’s gonna do it for you.

Tom McCarthy

Yeah, and how do they get that? How do they get that?

Natasha Graziano

I’m gonna get the link to that one right here. If we can share that and then everyone can download it.

Tom McCarthy

Okay, good. Well, actually what we’ll do, it’ll be on the video here, if it’s not on the video, we will have that on our site. So if you give us that link and everyone can go to, it will be one of our bonuses. You sign up for it, you get it for free and you’re gonna love it. She is such a powerhouse, waking you up every day, getting you ready to go, I love it, I love that concept. So thank you so much for being with us. Any final words that you’d like to leave with everybody that’s watched this interview with you.

Natasha Graziano

I’ll share one final thing with you. If we have two minutes, I’ll tell you a longer story if we can.

Tom McCarthy

Yeah, we have two minutes.

Natasha Graziano

I’m gonna give you this ’cause this is actually on my heart to share. So I recently watched this movie called “King Richard” King Richard is about not a king in that way you think, the Serena and Venus Williams story.

Tom McCarthy

Great movie.

Natasha Graziano

Great movie, right? So anyone that’s seen it today say yes, have you seen it? Amazing, okay. Why am I talking about this to you? Why is it so interesting? This movie is a journey of this beautiful young girl becoming a star, her and her sister, but why was it powerful to me? Because King Richard was a coach to Venus. He coached her the whole way. He had a plan for her, he had a purpose for her. She knew her purpose. She followed the plan and she was proactive in taking steps. I’m sharing with this with you today because if you stick to a plan, no matter what, you will get to where you wanna be, this journey is her achieving, becoming the number one, following this plan meticulously that her father had for her, but every time she fell down, this is what I wanna share with you today. Every single time she knocked a ball into the net. She lost again, her heart, she felt destroyed, but she would look over at her father and you know what he said to her, he would just say her and her sisters, they’d go, “Let’s go, next one.” 

And what does, let’s go, next one mean? Let’s go, next one means don’t hang on to the rejection, the pain, wherever issues you’re going through. It is about saying, let’s go onto the next thing. Every single time she fell down, every single time she lost, they would look over and just say, “Let’s go, next one,” with nothing like, “Don’t worry, none of this, or oh, you fool.” Nothing, they wouldn’t speak bad, but they would just say, let’s go, next one. And when King Richard said that, Will Smith plays that role, when he says that to Venus, she would stand up, go to the next one, and guess what? She went on to be the number one in the world. She went on to achieve the title of being the best tennis player in the world. And then as he predicted for his, the younger sister Serena, she went on to be it too. That is so powerful. This message of let’s go, next one. Do not forget that today. When you are going out there in the world and something hits you that you didn’t expect, when some kind of pain hits you, just know, when I say, let’s go, you say, next one.

Tom McCarthy

Next one.

Natasha Graziano

You love it. When you’re sitting there and you’re feeling not good, you’re not having a great day, something’s happened to you, you feel rejected by the world, you feel rejected by someone. Just know let’s go, next one.

Tom McCarthy

Yeah, that’s awesome. Or even if you make a little mistake, don’t beat yourself up. Let’s go, next one. That is awesome. Well, Natasha, you are amazing. Thank you for being with us. I know people really enjoy this interview and you will wake a lot of people up with your energy, which I really, really love. So fantastic job. Thank you so much for being with us today.

Natasha Graziano

Thank you so much for having me. I am so looking forward to getting to know some more of you soon and enjoy the gift from me to you. Have a beautiful day everyone. Thank you so much.