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- Defining autonomic dysregulation.
- Describing the 9 pilars of resilience.
- Getting on “The Path” to resilience.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
Welcome back to the Reverse Alzheimer’s Summit. I’m so excited to introduce you to Dr. Steven Sideroff. He’s an internationally recognized psychologist, executive and medical consultant, and an expert in resilience optimal performance, addiction, neurofeedback, leadership, and mental health. You can see why I’ve invited him here today. He’s published pioneering research in these fields. He’s a professor at UCLA in the department of psychiatry and behavioral sciences and the department of rheumatology. Plus the director of the Wallenberg Institute of Ethics. He was the founder and former clinical director of the stress strategies program of the UCLA Santa Monica Hospital and former clinical director of Moonview Treatment and Optimal Performance Center. Dr. Sideroff has presented over 600 seminars and professional training programs nationally and internationally. He’s helped establish innovative training and treatment approaches in optimal functioning mind-body medicine and ADD in the US, China, Europe, and conducted cutting edge research in brain and behavior. Dr. Sideroff has written and produced a number of self-help audio programs along with his book, The Path: Mastering The Nine Pillars of Resilience and Success, which has been hailed as a true Bible for living in balance and spirituality. Dr. Sideroff, welcome.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Thank you. It’s a pleasure to be here with you.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
So what is this relationship between stress and resilience and aging and memory?
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Yes, there’s many tie ins. And you know, intuitively we’ve always known that, if you’re more stressed your body’s not gonna function as well. And if body’s not gonna function as well you’re gonna age more rapidly. And you know, if you look at before and after pictures of all of our recent presidents, you will notice in a brief period of time that that’s actually true. But as you know we now have clear evidence that when you have a person who’s under more stress, you are going to actually show actual evidence of speeding up the aging process in terms of shortening of the telomeres at the ends of our DNA, which they hold our DNA in place. And as the cells divide those telomeres shorten little by little until they get to a point where the cells can no longer divide. And there are many studies now demonstrating showing that when you have more stress you see greater shortening of those telomeres, which indicate the aging of the cells. And we have more and more evidence now that stress literally speeds up the aging process.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
Right, there’s also a colleague of yours at UCLA, Dr. Horvath, who has the Horvath clock with the methylation as well. Dr. Carol Fitzgerald is also on this summit. So head on over to her talk if you have more questions about how to measure aging. There’s a few different ways and telomeres are certainly one of them. And so you talk about an evolutionary mismatch. How does that impact us?
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Well there, if you look at your day and you look at stimuli that either trigger activation of your nervous system that speeds up… that activates the sympathetic branch of your nervous system. And you look at stimuli that trigger the opposite, the recovery of your nervous system, the parasympathetic response, you know, we have a lot that stimulates stress, but very few in our day that say, okay, it’s time to relax.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
Can you give us examples of each.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Excuse me?
Heather Sandison, N.D.
Can you give us examples of each?
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Sure. So you wake up in the morning and you begin by wondering what can go wrong in your day, or you’re worried about, will somebody do something or is this going to happen? Those question marks in your head, that uncertainty immediately activates the stress response because your body always prepares for the worst outcome. We’re geared that way. Okay? So you’re mobilizing the stress response right from the start of your day, you have an encounter with somebody and they have a strange expression on their face and you start to wonder, did I say something wrong? Are they upset with me? Again, danger, a signal of danger. So it indicates also about how our thinking can create a series of dangers throughout our day that our body is continually mobilizing to handle. Now, the mismatch that I was talking about, the evolutionary mismatch is that we still have, right now, we still have the same fight or flight stress response survival mechanism of our hunter-gatherer ancestors. Well, what are the stresses that we deal with that are effectively dealt with by either fighting them or running from them? Very few, but that’s how our bodies mobilize. So we mobilize, we build up this energy in our body to handle the danger, but then we have hold it in because if I’m talking to my boss or a colleague, I’m not going to explode at them although some people do, but we hold it all in and that’s the mismatch. We mobilize, but our stress response is not really appropriate for the kinds of stresses that we deal with. And so that’s the mismatch that I’m referring to that adds to the imbalance between the activation, sympathetic branch of our nervous system and the parasympathetic, the recovery branch, which need to be in a place of balance.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
And in this summit in particular, you know, so many people are struggling with the stress of either themselves starting to lose their cognitive function or memory, or a dear loved one who is in the throes of dementia. And that is stressful. That alone is deeply stressful, particularly when you’ve been told there’s nothing you can do about it. Caregivers are at much much higher risk of developing dementia than the regular population and much of this is blamed on stress. So I wanna make sure that caregivers leave this conversation walking away, feeling empowered, to do something that helps to balance their autonomic system.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Yes. Well, it’s interesting you mentioned caregivers because those were the people studied in the telomere study that I mentioned earlier. They were the high stress group that was compared to a low stress group that showed a reduction in their length of their telomeres.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
A quickening and the aging process.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Exactly, exactly. So, you know, if we think about cognitive behavior, cognitive performance, we could think of it in two ways. One, in the moment, how effective are you cognitively? And two, over a period of time developmentally so to speak. Okay, in the moment stress can impair cognitive performance for many reasons. When you’re under stress, when there’s a danger or your brain thinks there’s a danger one of the tendencies, a natural tendency is for the brain to shift from the cortex, controlled by the cortex down to lower, more primitive but survival levels of the brain where we get into more stereotypic behavior, less flexibility with our cognitive thinking. So in the moment, it can impair cognitive performance, but long term, as we’re talking about how stress speeds up the aging process, it also has a decremental effect on cognitive performance, for those reasons. We have all kinds of evidence of how stress impairs the functioning of certain areas of the brain, including prefrontal cortex, hippocampus, which is where a major part of our neurogenesis, the birthing of new nerve cells takes place.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
And so autonomic dysregulation syndrome, can you give us the definition, is that the guts of it?
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Right. So this is a term that me and some of my colleagues have been kicking around for a number of years, Peter Levine, a friend and colleague of mine and myself, we’re talking about how this ongoing imbalance in daily life between the sympathetic arousal, parasympathetic recovery results in the dysregulation of the nervous system. And when you have a dysregulated nervous system there’s a whole cascading series of events that take place, including from a biological perspective, for example, inflammation is a result of this, speeding up the oxidation process. So you’re using the energy of your body without the appropriate recovery, this is the definition of it.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
And then, so to fix this, can you give me a pill?
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
You know, you sound just like my clients.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
And many of mine.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
You know, actually, fortunately a pill doesn’t work, a pill can mask symptoms, but it’s not going to address the basic mechanism. And, you know, I find with clients of mine that really want to do the work, they’re the ones that benefit. They’re the ones that show the difference. And they’re the ones that begin to have greater trust in themselves, which is a piece of the puzzle. Trust in yourself, that’s about confidence that actually reduces your reactions to stress because stress is really about uncertainty. And the more you trust yourself the less uncertainty there is in your life. So the answer is no, there’s no pill. One of the things I tell all my clients is that you really need on a daily basis to practice some form of relaxation exercise. If we are activating the sympathetic arousal so much, we have to find ways of compensating for that. And one way is practicing a relaxation exercise because you have to really retrain your body to go into the deeper levels of calm. One of the ways I explain it is if we think about the range of your nervous system, where you activate it to stress and danger, and you recover this way, and you have a balance here, when you have this autonomic dysregulation what happens is you shrink this range and you don’t shrink it this way. You shrink it this way. We lose the ability to come down to deeper levels of calm. One of the key indications of that is difficulty getting to sleep or having a good night’s sleep. And the baseline creeps up. So you need some ways of literally retraining your body to go to those deeper levels of calm.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
So I discuss meditation with many of my patients, and I’m sure we’re gonna get into that, but I can also speak from this experience personally, of having the feeling like meditation, isn’t helping me, ’cause I can’t get there, I can’t get to that space where I feel calm or my thoughts are coming up. I’m stuck in my head. I can’t get into my body and so I shouldn’t meditate. And really that’s when you need it most, right?
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Well, that’s a great example of what happens to a lot of people. I noticed that in myself, I, a number of years ago, I was doing the same thing. I was meditating and I was thinking, well, this isn’t working and I’m… And what I was doing is I was judging my performance, which is the opposite of what you need to be doing to practice relaxing. It’s about acceptance. And, I found that when I said, okay, it’s what it is. I’m accepting it for what it is, suddenly I was able to sit and meditate whereas before I wasn’t able to. One of the things that I do that I find is tremendously beneficial in this arena is biofeedback and biofeedback is using a device that actually monitors. So for the people that wanna know, is it working, biofeedback actually gives you the feedback that lets you know when you’re successful and when you’re not successful.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
You talk about the nine pillars of resilience, which hopefully would help us become more successful, for those of us who are interested in outcomes and getting it right. And then, so take us through those nine pillars of resilience.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Yeah. So this model that I’ve developed comes out of my goal of identifying everything from a psychological, behavioral, emotional, and even spiritual perspective that impacts optimal functioning. Okay? And so it comes in three areas. The first area is relationship. So, it’s relationship with yourself. How do you talk to yourself? Are you accepting or critical and judgemental? The second is relationship with others. Are you able to set good boundaries in relationships? Do you establish healthy relationships with people who can be supportive again, rather than critical? The third area is relationship with something greater and this could be spirituality, it could be having meaning and purpose in your life. And it’s about giving service. So it’s a broader, horizon to the world that you’re encountering in relationship with. The next area is organismic balance and mastery and that’s physical balance and mastery. Again, can I relax? Can I recover quickly after a stressful event? Or do I keep my tension elevated even after a stress is over because I’m wondering where the next danger is? So it’s physical balance and mastery, mental cognitive balance and mastery. Do I focus on what’s positive more than what’s negative? Am I able to shift away from some thoughts that are not serving me? Do I have cognitive flexibility? So that’s the second one.
And then it’s emotional balance and mastery. Am I able to recognize when I have feelings and I deal with them appropriately so I can let them go and not carry them around with me? When we have a big reaction to a situation that doesn’t require a big reaction. That’s a typical indication that we’re sitting on unfinished emotional business. The last three have to do with how we engage in the world. Presence, my model has two directions to presence. It’s not just, okay, I’m present, I’m noticing, I’m aware of my environment, but it’s also my presence. How do I project my energy out into the world? Flexibility. Okay, we’ve had to be very flexible over these last two years because many of the paths to success have been cut off to us. So flexibility is being able to adjust your goals, adjust your process, your patterns, to accommodate changes in the world, which is happening all the time. And then finally the ninth is power, which I define as the ability to get things done. So this has to do with having courage, being able to overcome your fears, to engage with the world, persistence. These are the components of power and being able to get things done because the more you get things done the more you trust yourself and the less in the world seems dangerous.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
So I think a lot, certainly as I hear you talking, I’m like, okay, yep. I get that, I get that, I get that. But putting it into practice, is the really challenging part.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Yes.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
Tell us. Tell us about The Path.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Okay, so first of all, when we face all the things that we feel we need to do to become more resilient to deal with stress, it could be very overwhelming. There’s a lot, right? So I wanted to create some way that people did not feel overwhelmed by the process. Okay, of all the things that need to be done. So the notion of The Path is that you take certain steps during your day and they put you on the path. And if you’re on the path, you’re doing all that you need to do, you don’t have to look to see what’s still not being done, which then creates the overwhelm or creates the sense I’m not doing enough. So the whole idea is the goal isn’t all the ways out there. You can achieve the goal every single day, because all you need to do is get onto the path. And if you get onto the path you’re going to get there. So that’s the whole notion of the path is take some steps in the right direction today that puts you on the path and you’re good to go.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
You’re oriented in that direction. And regardless of where you end up, it’s gonna be better than the path that you were on previously.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Right.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
This is exactly why I created Marama and why we have the health coaching support and also a Marama at home course it’s because this Bredesen approach to reversing cognitive decline, much like you described the pillars resilience, it’s challenging, it’s complicated. And it can feel like an exceptionally heavy lift. Particularly if you or your loved one has cognitive decline already. Even for people with full cognitive capacity, this can feel really hard. And so we get that and we get you and we’re here for you. And I think that Dr. Sideroff and I, both are united in this idea that there are ways to take small steps that have big impacts. So I’m curious where you usually have people start. What’s the first step on the path?
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Okay. Well, very good question. So the first step is to do an assessment. So I’ve developed a 40 item questionnaire and what I wanna say is I have a resilience assessment booklet. And if anybody who’s listening to your podcast would like, and email me, I will send it to them free. And my email, very simple. It’s [email protected].
Heather Sandison, N.D.
S-I-D-E-R-O-F-F @UCLA dot EDU.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Dot EDU. And I’ll send you my resilience assessment booklet, which describes my model each of the components. And it also gives this 40 item questionnaire that a person can take in five or 10 minutes, self score. And then you get your profile of which of the nine pillars are your strengths and which areas you need further development. But to answer your question, it’s doing the assessment, seeing where you’re at and the key, the biggest key is acceptance of where you’re at. Most of us do not accept where we’re at. Most of us feel we should be further along than we are. And I like to, in my earliest training as a gestalt psychologist, is gestalt therapy. I learned that this what’s called the paradoxical theory of change. Have you ever heard of that?
Heather Sandison, N.D.
No, I’m so curious.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Okay, so here you are on this path through life and you’re somewhere here. Let’s say you’re over here. Most of the time we’re here and we feel we should be here.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
So we’re in the middle and we feel like we should be a little more advanced. For anybody who can’t see your fingers, I wanna make sure they kind of know where we are in space.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Okay. Yes, so I’m moving my finger along the path, but we feel we should be further along the path. I should have done that better, I should have known, I shouldn’t have made that mistake. And the answer is no, here’s where you are, you cannot be two places at the same time. If you’re here, you can’t be over here. So the best way for your growth and development is to accept where you’re at. If you keep misplacing your keys, you don’t say, “well, I should have known where they are.” No, right now, stuff is going on in your life, in your head that’s so distracting to you that you don’t notice when you place your keys down. So you’re not gonna remember where they are. Accept that right now. So acceptance of where you’re at on these nine pillars, your profile, the first step is accepting. The next step in my book, The Path I actually have in each chapter, step one, step two, step three, to make it very clear, go to step one and do that now. And so… to be on the path, it involves some effort on your part, but I guarantee if you get onto the path, if you take those steps, you’re going to become more resilient. You’re going to handle stress a lot better. It’s just about taking those first steps.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
You mentioned gestalt, and the I’m curious about the primitive gestalt patterns that you mentioned and how they… you can feel kind of out of control.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Yeah. So primitive gestalt patterns is something that I’ve written about that really talks about the lessons of early childhood and how they become the patterns that we are tied to as adults. So you’re in your earliest years of life and you’re trying to… what’s the most important thing? Survival. How do I survive? I be on the good side of the people who I’m dependent on. Usually mother and father, whoever our primary caregivers are. So the key here is we don’t go out into the world as a little baby as a two or four year old and sample hundreds of families to determine what’s really right. Our primary environment to us is the whole world. And we adapt to that environment. And then unfortunately our adaptation freezes to that environment and the more stress in the environment, the more our pattern adapts and freezes to it, unfortunately. So as adults, we don’t know that this is our pattern. These are unconscious driving forces as adults. And the way I refer to it is we develop an internal parent, which is the voice we hear 24/7. And that’s what we listen to. If it’s critical, we believe it’s the way to be. If it’s hard on us, we believe that’s the way to be. If it puts us down, well, it’s the truth because it’s all we know. And in my work I contrast that with what I refer to as a healthy internal parent and the healthy internal parent comes from a place of love, compassion, acceptance, support, and care. And so part of being on the path is being aware of when you’re talking to yourself in an inappropriate way, because that takes you off the path. And if you notice that by asking yourself one question, am I on the path or off the path? And if you’re off the path, there’s steps you can take to get back on, including finding that healthy voice and talking from that healthy perspective.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
So it sounds like there’s this early imprinting that happens, that really impacts the way we show up in adulthood, regardless of whether or not it serves us.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
That’s right.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
And you’re describing this opportunity to choose a different imprinting. And so how do we… It sounds like it’s gonna take a lot of practice because especially if we’re talking to somebody in their 60s or 70s, this is a long… I think of like wagon wheel ruts in the mud, and you’ve talked about biofeedback, maybe neural feedback. Are there places… Again, I’m societally trained to be like, “Well, what’s the pill.?” How do I- What’s the quick shortcut to replacing that imprinting with love and compassion and acceptance and support and care?
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Well, you know, I had the good fortune early in my career to be a colleague of Donald Hebb, who wrote the very first really neuroscience book in 1947. Actually. And… he coined the phrase, ‘neurons that fire together wire together.’ Okay? And that’s why, when you say wagon wheels in a rut, what the real translation is, is that we’ve developed neural circuitry based on the lessons of our childhood. And so we have two very, very important factors running our lives. One, which is the primitive gestalt patterns, I was talking about how our neural circuitry developed based on those early lessons. But fortunately the other, is neuroplasticity and neuroplasticity is the brain’s ability to rewire itself. We wanna emphasize that, that’s where we wanna put our efforts when you get onto the path, when you’re engaged in looking for the old patterns and correcting them, you are literally, causing old patterns in the brain to fall by the wayside and develop new patterns in the brain. It’s literally a half hour impactful experience such as this interview can literally begin shifting neural circuits, but you have to be consistent with it. That’s the key. You have to be focused in on making sure you do this on a daily basis. And when you do, the changes literally occur.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
And I’m sure the return on investment there, right? If you’re investing the 30 minutes a day over the course of six, eighth, 12 months, you’re going to get huge returns on that, right? Your experience of the world, your experience of life, your interactions with all of those nine pillars really, will be impacted at a fundamental like foundational level.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Definitely. So I’ll give you one case example. Okay? So I obviously hopefully follow my model of resilience, right? Because I believe it’s the key to slowing the aging process and then all the other benefits that follow. A couple of months ago, I did one of these methylation studies like Horvath and that actually gives you your biological age. So last month I turned 75, but my biological age came out as 55.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
High five, nice work. I’m so impressed.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
But it’s a case example. I followed my model or I developed my model based on what I know and how I live my life, but anybody can do that. Anybody can do that. Anybody can achieve those, certainly improvements on what’s going on right now.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
And then, I mean, you talked a little bit about this in the nine pillars of resilience, but do you put this in the context of diet and exercise and sleep and and these other sort of foundational aspects of health?
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Definitely, definitely. Rob Lufkin, a good friend of mine who does his podcast on longevity as well. And he was a guest of yours. We’re sort of like these dualling scientists. He does the… a metabolic aspect of it and I do the psychological aspect of it, but it’s an integration of the two. It’s an integration of the two. They both play an important part, significant part in this process. And I think those two have it all covered. Both aspects really have the optimal aging covered. And of course, when we talk about optimal aging, we’re talking about the optimal functioning of the body.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
Right. And that virtuous cycle even, that starts to happen when we take care of both the mind and the body, right? As our mental health is better, you work through these pillars of resilience and the path, then you make better decisions around exercise and diet and prioritizing sleep, and then your resilience gets better. And you can see how… sometimes we talk about these downward spirals that people will get on and there’s opportunity to take advantage of an upward spiral, a virtuous cycle.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Definitely, definitely. And that’s what we are encouraging.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
Dr. Sideroff, it’s been an absolute pleasure. Again, people can reach you at [email protected]. Do you also have a website?
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
I do. The website is Dr. Stephen Sideroff.com. That’s D-R-S-T-E-P-H-E-N-S-I-D-E-R-O-F-F.com. I actually have an audio relaxation, visualization download that people can get for free. I also have a resilience challenge where people can answer nine questions and it gives them a sense of their resilience. Plus, a lot of other… a lot of my research is on my website as well, as well as some of my audio products of like one, it takes people step by step through a six week program.
Heather Sandison, N.D.
Fantastic. Thank you so much. This has been an absolute joy of a conversation and really a pleasure to have you, and I’m so grateful for your wisdom and experience and really sharing your firsthand experience. Not only as a clinician, but what you’ve experienced personally, so valuable to our listeners. Thank you.
Dr. Stephen Sideroff
Thank you also. Great questions. Thank you.