Coming Home to Your Body: Pain-Free Sex, Real Pleasure & Self-Acceptance
We’re rarely taught how our own arousal actually works, or that painful sex, low libido, and feeling disconnected in the bedroom are common but not normal.
In this episode, Dr. Miranda Naylor sits down with Brittney Ellers, a pelvic PT and pelvic health embodiment guide, for an honest conversation about pelvic wellbeing, pleasure, and intimacy.
They go beyond the physical and talk about what makes us feel safe, how trust shapes our sex lives, and how reclaiming your sexuality can change so many other parts of your life too.
We’ll cover:
✔️ Why “strong” isn’t really the goal for your pelvic floor
✔️ How chronic tightness develops and why it can cause pain or leaking
✔️ The connection between breath, fascia, and pelvic floor function
✔️ What painful sex can actually look like and what’s behind it
✔️ Understanding your arousal anatomy and why it takes time
✔️ Giving yourself permission to explore desire and build your own “sex lab”
✔️ Brittney’s personal story of rebuilding intimacy after a hard season
✔️ Why connection, not just sex, is what most partners are really after
✔️ Boundaries, self trust, and working through past experiences
✔️ Body image, the good girl narrative, and reclaiming your sexuality
✔️ Signs you might be more disconnected from your sexuality than you realize
✔️ What a pelvic floor therapy session actually looks like
✔️ How receptivity and pleasure tie into fertility
✔️ Why it’s okay for sex, and healing, to be easy and fun
If you’ve ever wondered whether your libido will come back, or felt too embarrassed to ask these questions out loud, this one is for you.
Timestamps
0:07 Why this episode is for every woman
2:23 Welcoming Brittney Ellers back to the podcast
3:03 Busting the “strong pelvic floor” myth
4:57 Why tightness can become a problem
8:20 How breath, fascia, and the pelvic floor are connected
10:44 What causes pelvic floor tightness
11:07 What painful sex can actually look like
13:02 Understanding your arousal network
15:23 Why arousal takes 25 to 40 minutes (and why that’s a good thing)
17:51 Lubrication and not overriding your body’s signals
19:33 Permission to explore desire and build your own “sex lab”
21:07 Brittney’s story of rebuilding intimacy after a hard season
25:32 Why connection matters more to men than we realize
27:49 Boundaries, safety, and working through past experiences
31:24 Body image and the good girl narrative
33:39 Brittney’s personal story of sexual shame and reclamation
36:03 Signs you might be disconnected from your sexuality
39:55 The Sex and the City archetypes and the “well fucked woman”
42:08 Identity work: trying on a new persona
48:17 What a pelvic floor therapy session actually looks like
52:30 Sex, receptivity, and unexplained infertility
56:08 What if it could just be easy?
59:00 Where to start: Brittney’s free Arousal Anatomy Adventure
Dr. Brittney Ellers’ Links:
Website: https://www.brittneyellers.com
Free: The Arousal Anatomy Adventure https://www.brittneyellers.com/arousal-anatomy-adventure
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/b.ellers
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrBrittneyEllers
Listen to Brittney’s first episode on the podcast: https://modernwomenswellness.buzzsprout.com/2464247/episodes/17108796-episode-9-let-s-talk-pelvic-health-pain-free-periods-better-sex-reclaiming-your-body-with-brittney-ellers
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