Declutter Your Energy Body

Introduction to the Summit and Guest 0:00

Welcome back to the reverse Autoimmune Disease Summit series. Everybody you we're in version 5.0. We're healing the energy body. And our guest today is, Heather Artemia who's going to talk about decluttering your energy body. She's a national board and functional medicine certified health coach. She's the founder of School of Living Lighter, which is a weight loss methodology grounded in minimalism, functional medicine, and cognitive behavior. By releasing the clutter of their minds, bodies, and homes, her clients are actively living lighter as they tackle their clutter.

Uncomplicated their lives, and lose weight for good. She's been featured on popular wellness and minimalism platforms, and has do it yourself courses and a monthly membership and private coaching for your lightest self at School of Living lighter. Com welcome to the summit, Heather. Thank you so much for having me. It's a pleasure. We are just talking about how I was. I was pointing to the fact that my background is not minimalist and yours is. I'm not a minimalist. And you said you have a story around that.

And I remember your story, and I would love to have you share it. Okay. Well, I, I was born a maximalist. I always thought more was more. I remember having breakfast with my sisters and my, my, dad would make a bunch of toast, and I always tried to get all the toast, all the pieces of toast, and so I really carried this idea that more was more for decades of my life. And a number of years ago, we had a water heater leak, and there was a lot of toxic mold with it, and it contaminated a lot of the things in our home.

And so we have gone through numerous remediation attempts to create a safe home.

Heather's Minimalism Origin Story 2:00

And, and, and that included a lot of decluttering, a lot of letting go, letting go of things that could feel really hard to let go of. I let go of yearbooks. I let go of my wedding dress. I let go of my diaries, all of my diaries since childhood, more that loves paper. And even though you couldn't see the mold, we knew it was there. And so that's why I've got a very empty background behind me, and it has made my life lighter. Though I have realized throughout the process that I was putting a lot of meaning into all these things and at the end of the day, the meaning can live in my heart.

It does not have to live in those tangible things to create happiness. You know, when I when I turned 50, I started decluttering and, and shedding in the last year or shedding some carried around, weight of my own just on my body. And it's interesting because that then made me clear out most of my closet because nothing is said anymore. And there is a there is a sense, like I got rid of two thirds of my library and it wasn't as a mold. That was just because I felt like there was too much stuff around me and I, and it felt heavy and that I needed to just start moving it.

And, re gifting things. And, you know, it's really fascinating how the lightness in your being is reflected in your environment. Yeah. So when they impact each other. Exactly when you started to give some of those things away and let go of some of those things, how did that feel inside? Yeah, it just felt really, really lovely because it felt like, this isn't necessary anymore. It it's it had this really beautiful purpose and brought joy. And that period of time. But to carry the past into the present and then keep adding to it, you know, there's this definite heaviness that happens that I don't even know that we're aware of.

And I know that a lot of people like there's a stage of life when you start letting go of things so that you can start leaving the planet. And it felt like that for me, you know, like 50 was kind of this watershed where I walk through this threshold of this door that just said, oh, yeah, I everything shifted as far as what was important. And so I think that we do some accumulation, like when we have children, we have to get the stroller, we have to get the crib, and we have to get, you know, like there's like stuff that we, we nest with, right?

To create a nest for our children. And then if we're not conscious about it, we can keep adding to that. And, and I just think that, you know, the, the consciousness part that you're bringing to this, I think, is a really important conversation to have when we're operating on autopilot and in an unconscious manner. We we try and buy our ways, our way to happiness and accumulate our way to happiness. And I do see for a lot of people, we spend the first half of our life accumulating things and items and, and showing that we've made it or whatever, whatever definition of success we are embodying.

And then we spend the second half of our life letting go. Yeah. And some of us resist that. We really resist the letting go. But even though it can create a lighter experience and, a lighter heart, very much true, you know, and I'm very anti clutter. So everything's organized and, you know, I, I do not do well with clutter in my environment, but even your stuff. Right.

Defining Clutter: Mind, Body, and Home 6:00

It's like, you know, you have to organize your stuff all the time. Yeah. And if you don't have it, you don't have to do that. Right, right. And and we're talking about not getting rid of everything. We're just talking about getting rid of the things that are heavy that have that low vibration. Yeah. And if we can let go of those things, then we get to see the things that we actually love. So often our vision is so clouded by all that things. We don't even see the items that truly do bring a smile to our faces.

It's much easier to get dressed these days. I bought it, I thought it is. Yes. Yeah, it's so much easier. So I don't have three sizes of clothes that I carry anymore. I mean, that's one thing about going through menopause for me too, was all of the hormonal changes stopped. And it's just like my body found its weight that it needs to be at. And it's a really nice one. And it's like, okay, so now I just have one size of clothing and I'm so used to, after having four children, having this up and down relationship on a monthly basis.

And so you know, just to stop that, that's amazing. Well, you gave yourself the gift of allowing yourself to find your natural weight. And once you find that natural weight, it is so easy to maintain, as long as you stay intentional and stay clear on the things that you want. So bravo to a lighter closet and bravo to creating that natural weight for yourself. So let's define clutter because we're talking about clutter, the cluttering of the energy body. Right. And so far we've been talking a lot about physical clutter.

But it goes so so far beyond that. So I like to look at clutter as anything that gets in the way of the life we want to live, anything. So it doesn't have to just be a thing. And usually more of our clutter is mental mind clutter. So resistance resistance without action is clutter cluttering up our mind. Overwhelm, overwhelm. I, I used to indulge and overwhelm and worry and frustration, and these feelings didn't do anything good for me, especially because I would ruminate in them. I would soak and marinate in them.

And so those are forms of clutter as well. Trying to get your spouse to change and be a different person is another form of mind clutter. And those thoughts of wishing somebody were different. Those are just getting in the way of you showing up in your best, best self. So we've got mind clutter. We also have body clutter and and then some unusual forms of home clutter that I can go into that's here. It okay so the body clutter briefly high level anything that comes into the body that we are sensitive to. So the first thought might be food.

What are the foods that are causing you to swell up. What are the foods that are causing autoimmune conditions? I have a number of immune conditions myself, and there are certain foods that I stay away from because if I consume them, I'll have to pull out the crutches and I. I don't want to do that. It goes beyond foods, though. So the air that you're breathing, the air that I'm breathing, I mentioned my toxic mold experience. And so mold in the air, certain types of mold for certain people can really, really be clutter.

What's amazing is that I have, two boys are ten and 12, and my husband and those three are not impacted by the mold in our home. I'm the only one that's been impacted. And so, any you know, at first they have a little resistance to letting go of their things when we were remediating because those that were. But why, mom? Why why do I have to get rid of these things? They're not making me sick. And so resistance again, as as clutter and then home clutter. Yes. It's the piles and piles of paper or it's the all the books, you know, now.

And Marie Kondo actually mentioned books could be clutter, but she was misunderstood. And she's a famous minimalist. Books are only clutter if you perceive them as clutter. And so if you're looking at lots of books and saying, I'm never going to read these, I, they feel heavy to me, then that can be clutter. The closet that you mentioned. Your closet is much lighter now. But a closet that is just bursting with clothes, definitely clutter, but unusual forms of home clutter are things such as sensationalism.

So what is coming out of your TV? How often is the TV on? What is coming out of the radio? What are you listening to? What are those messages? Are those messages heavy or are those messages light? How do you feel when you listen to them? Do you feel lifted or do you feel weighed down? And so the messages, those are, clutter as well. And even the relationships that come into the home. And so if you've got neighbors stopping by, if you've got, people who lift you up, definitely not clutter. But if there are those people that are always angry or grumpy or heavy and you feel exhausted around them, that might be some clutter that is coming a little too close to the home, because it impacts you.

You know, the the TV thing, I think some people like to have it on as white noise in the background and, that and that tendency or that need, you know, I would just ask invite to drop into that and see, like, what is the resistance to just being alone with your own thoughts, you know, and the feelings and sensations in your body. What is the need for distraction? Right. Because that that white noise has its own energetic footprint inside your home. Right. And those those distractions are clogging up our potential.

And I used to be that person. I wanted something on. And the reason for me was because I wasn't happy with my status quo. I was working a job. I wasn't finding the fulfillment that I found originally in that job. I wasn't finding the meaning. And so I welcomed all the distractions. Because then I didn't have to get up close and personal. And so that is that is really key that you just mentioned that because a lot of us are uncomfortable with quiet space, with open space, and we think it's harder actually than it is.

And so I invite everybody to carve out some time, sit with yourself,

Emotional Release and Energy Stagnation 13:00

ask yourself, what are the distractions that are clogging up the potential? What are the distractions that you're going to because you want to cover up something else? And then what is at the root of that? What's underneath all of it? It might. I always think that when things stay vague, they are so much scarier than when we get clarity out of them. When we get clarity, then we can create some action, and we can move forward and move into and toward a lighter future. Yeah. It's so true. And you know I, I sat in a ten day Vipassana silent meditation retreat many, many years ago and it was probably the first time I was raising four small children with my husband, and it was probably the first time that I had to really sit still with myself.

You don't journal when you're on a ten day Vipassana meditation retreat. You don't listen to music, you don't do yoga, you don't, you know, you don't partake in any of the the doings that might be on your to do list, even if there are those kinds of self-care activities like yoga and journaling, you, you just sit still with yourself. It's you, yourself and you, and you know it is amazing as the quiet of that or the clutter of the mind comes crashing into full clarity, how people respond inside the the past in the center.

You know, sometimes there's crying, sometimes there's laughing. Some, you know, like just different, different responses to finally becoming present, fully embodied, present in, you know, with yourself and only yourself and not looking. You're not supposed to make eye contact with other people, not looking for what their needs are, you know, like you're just tracking you and that's it. And it is remarkable. Our culture does not teach us to do that or support it in any way. So, you know, finding that that kind of a space like a ten day vipassana retreat, I always tell my patients, it's like 20 years of psychotherapy.

You never know, can sign me up. It sounds amazing. And you just talked about the different emotions and feelings, and we repressed those. Right. What is that doing to our physiology? Well, it causes autoimmune disease because, you know, like 10,000 years ago our Vedic medicine said autoimmunity is undigested anger 100%. And so with my kids today, the two boys, I tell them all the time cried out, it will feel so good. Cry it out and does it a good cry just feel amazing. I think if every doctor could prescribe have one good cry a month we would be a lighter society.

Yeah, we have different energy systems though some people are not criers, you know, some may need to like go punch a pillow. I'm sure we'll get it out. However, what exactly looks like. But but not having the release. Yeah, it's cluttering up the body. And so that release useful tool. Yeah. And you're right. Do do the right form for you. Absolutely. Yeah. There's an energy system that's very earth and, and it hunkers in and everything gets stuck in their system and just even moving like going for a hike.

Well we'll start that going. Right. And, and so each energy system has its own needs but it needs to get unstuck. Yeah. And some leave real fast. You know they have a lot of air in space. And then that's anchoring and tethering into your body being able to feel your feels right. And then if you need to cry cry or. Yeah yeah. It's just it's like your call to declutter your body's emotional, build up. That's one of the various pathways to reversing autoimmunity. Yes. And what I see is when we resist that or try and distract ourselves from that, that's when we get the inner turmoil and the inner build up.

And so it's it can be a scary thought to allow emotion just to allow it. So allow it to move through the body. And one thing I like to remind myself and my clients is that you will not feel that emotion for the rest of your life. I promise you, it will probably be a good rich, small number of minutes. It's not. But the months and months are the days and days if you allow it. But if you continue to resist it, if you continue to try and distract yourself from it, it's always going to be there. It's so true. There's one.

There's another energy system that I see with autoimmunity a lot, and it's the rigid one where there's a lot of space, and that one is the, attachment to adhering to rules, you know, so taking what we're saying and then making it into a rigid rules structure, I have to do this. I have to follow it. If that happens, then I'll get this outcome right. And and that's a perfectionistic piece around, you know, so it's kind of, rigid and robotic. And so that one is like giving yourself permission to get messy.

Yes. To actually let clutter happen around you a little bit and say, oh, how does that feel? Yes, yes. Well, and actually, sometimes people will say, well, is your house clean all the time? And the answer is no. You're right. We live in the home, we do art projects, we get the stuff out. Yeah, but we also put it away. Right. And so that's that. Yeah. But I think when we allow ourselves to get messy, we can, like, we can find a new level of creativity

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which can open the door to new thoughts and new ideas and new possibilities. And so I definitely don't live in a museum. Oh my goodness, no. My husband would laugh at that. There are random socks, you know, probably like in the living room right now that belong to the ten and 12 year olds. But but the clutter, really, it's it's one of those things where those things that are out there, they're useful, they're they're either useful or we love them. And so, if they're useful, if you love them, they're not clutter.

And so it's get. Yeah. Let go of the things that are weighing you down. And some might say it's so hard to let go. Yeah. Maybe they inherited something. It was given to them, maybe by a parent. And it was the grandparents, the great grandparents. But they never liked the thing, and it never felt like it fit. That can be a little harder to let go, to give yourself permission to let it go and to give it a second life somewhere else. I did that, and it really upset my mother. It's not interesting. Yeah, yeah, it really upset my mother.

She had given me her China, which she never used, and it was a pattern that I found that I never used. And and so I gifted it away. And when she found out it, she was not pleased. So, you know, you can also, use your discernment in how you want, how you approach and talk about it and, you know, let let there be a feather bed landing. Yeah. I didn't think she would care because she gave it to me. So I thought I didn't want it. So I was a little too off handed, you know, without checking in with her and saying, okay, I'm going to let this go.

It's not something I'm using. Do you have a suggestion? Is there a place you would want it to go? You know, do you want to offer it to someone else? I didn't do that so well. That's what I usually recommend is if somebody is giving you something and it's in the family, ask that person, do they want it back or do they have a suggestion? What's interesting, though, is your mom gave it to you, maybe thinking, oh, finally it will get used since it wasn't getting used with her. And, and it's always interesting, our reasons, our motivations for doing things and, but I, like I always say, when you give something to somebody else, make sure it's not clutter for them.

Make sure you're not moving your clutter to somebody else's space. Right. Ask them, do you really want it? And also say, this gift comes with no strings. So if you end up re gifting it, that's okay. That's okay. I just want you to know that, yes. When we give things with agendas, secret agendas that we don't share with others, that can be some mind clutter as well. Exactly. Yeah. It creates relationship clutter right. Exactly. So yeah those are really good points. So how has this helped your autoimmune health to drop into this.

Well in so many different ways, so many different ways. And so I have rheumatoid arthritis. And I, it's it used to be something that was on my, my mind every single day. I forget that I have it because I have very, very few flares now. And that was originally mostly because I changed my diet. But then I realized I had changed my diet. And, if my husband and I had an argument or where maybe we got to a place where I didn't feel like the conversation was finished, or maybe I felt I didn't share what I wanted to share.

Within 30 minutes, I would get a flare in my left shoulder. And so we started to joke a little bit about it. Oh, Heather, I see you still have something left. You want to say you got a flare in your left shoulder, you got the sling on again, and, I'm I'm grateful. It's been years since I've had to wear a sling. It's been years since I've needed to use the crutches. But, our thoughts, our perceptions, our energy, and they create a cascade in the body. And so those thoughts that I was thinking would create the rheumatoid arthritis flares.

And so I am much more intentional now and reminding myself that I'm not a victim, that I can think about what's been said and I can interpret it in a different way. There are millions of ways to interpret what's been told to you, and so often I would just go the victim route like most human beings. And so I remind myself on a regular basis, you're not a victim. When I do that. I always get to a lighter space and the relationship benefits as well. Now, what is the relationship? The relationship simply are my thoughts about the other person.

But because my thoughts are lighter, I then behave in a different way and that's received so much better than if I behave as a victim. So that's one way, my new relationship with clutter and with minimalism. Minimalism I like to define as, a beautiful pathway toward intentionality. But that's one way my life has changed. I'll share another experience I've had. I also have psoriasis and it manifested physically during a really stressful period of my life. My thoughts were what? We were so stressed really that life was great, but it was the thoughts that I was thinking at the time and I went to a Reiki master and had a session with her, and within 24 hours, 90% of the psoriasis was gone.

And it was incredible. Energy session. I have a hiatal hernia, and she had her hands right over the hernia, and I felt like it was going to pop out of my like. I just thought it was crazy what was happening during that time. But energy can get stuck for so many different reasons in the body. And my energy had been stuck. And once I had that session, I felt a flood of energy go through my body. It was tremendous. And 24 hours later I'm like, oh my gosh, the psoriasis on my hips and my legs, some awkward spaces as well.

Miserable spaces. Amazing that it was all gone. I had 10% left, still a little bit along the hairline, but everything south of the hernia was cleared up and so

Free Gift and Mini Course Overview 26:00

I. I can't speak highly enough of those people who have the skills to help in this way. I don't have those particular skills, but they have. They have helped me tremendously. I can't imagine if I had not gone. Yeah, yeah. You know, you can learn those skills, right? Yes, yes. But here's the thing. There's a right time. And if I bring that on right now, it will clutter up my calendar. Perfect. Thank you. I do want to learn those skills. And it's, it's I have that tendency where I was I mentioned I'm more of a maximalist naturally.

I had discovered the minimalism so I, I have the tendency to overfill my schedule unless I am really really conscious. So at some point within the next ten years that will happen. Yeah. I give myself a lot of or a lot of room and that's important. And you know that again, we're all designed differently. I study human design, and we all have a different way that we manifest our humanity in this incarnation. And it's important to learn that about yourself. Like what? What's my bandwidth? What what is it that I am?

What's my mission? What's my purpose? And do things in line with that? Because when you're out of alignment, then it creates all kinds of dissonance and and all of your, your layers, not just your physical one. So that's very good that you have your discernment on board there. Think I'm creating coherence with my calendar. Yep yep yep. Getting coherence with my home, my mind, my body. And with that coherence comes health. Yeah, but with the the lack of coherence comes more disease. And I'm just I'm not inviting more disease into my life.

I'm just inviting more health. Beautiful. You have, free gift that you're giving our audience. Yes. So it is a it's called 12 Questions that'll Change Your Life. And it's a workbook. It's fillable so you don't have to print it up and create more paper clutter. And they are 12 intentional questions to help you think about where you are, what matters most to you right now, and where you want to be. And the questions will also help you lean into the actions necessary to start to create some momentum.

There are 12 powerful questions. Beautiful. And then for those of you that have, purchased the All Access path, pass and are availing yourself of these talks forever are on that VIP inner circle. There is, purchase bonus that comes with that all access pass that Heather has generously donated. Also, it's a mini course on decluttering the mind, the body, and the home. Is there anything you want to say about that? Heather to enter? Yes. Thank you so much. Well, I again, I was very intentional. I don't want to create more clutter, in terms of the courses that we sign up for.

So there are three modules mind clutter, body clutter, home clutter. And of course, it's very actionable, embraces your modules and life becomes so much lighter from all perspectives. And so it's, it won't take your whole life to complete. Right? It's just a, a short focus period of time. But I'm happy to gift that. And I can't wait to hear how these three modules light in your life. Thank you so much for your generosity of time and and your work. It's beautiful work, and I can't encourage everyone enough to make sure that you dive into this work and help declutter my mind, body, and home.

Thanks, Heather. My sincere pleasure. Thank you. Until next time everyone be well.