The Magic Of Connection Through Sex Toys

Introduction to sex toys and healing 0:00

Hey, everybody, welcome back to another amazing session of the Solving Sexual Dysfunction Summit. So a special. Special treat for you on this one. We are going to talk about sex toys, vibrators and we're going to talk about some of the research has really shown that beyond pleasure, beyond fun. That's already amazing. Beyond all that, the research that's showing that what we can actually do to heal truly, just heal sexual dysfunction and many different different types of conditions that come with this.

Oh, my God, this is so much fun. I love this. First of all, this is just it's like Christmas, it's like birthdays. It's like everything rolled into. Oh, yes. So which which one do you want to start out with here? We start with the Tenuto. All right. So let me just show it to you. I love unboxing videos right here. I'm going to show you the whole the whole little box here. Look at that picture on there. That's pretty good. This when this came to my house, I was like, what is that? Like? At first I realized, like, I I'm not quite sure.

And then I don't know, let's, let's, let's open it up. So and quick comment on that too, just so you get this is these vibrators are from our sponsor over at Mystery Vibe and a cool thing why Dr. Betsy did not know what it was is because they come with very, very special packaging where it does not say on their packaging who it's from. So you can really be very secretive if you need to be with your delivery. Yeah. Because you don't really want something showing up to your house because God forbid, it's like sent to your neighbor and it has the words sex toy or something like know written on the side of it.

You're very protected. So.

Tenuto: design, app control, and ED research 1:56

All right, so I just took this thing out of the box, so I'm going to show you from all different angles here. So this what I was reading about this is it's something for a male partner, but it can be enjoyed with or without another partner. So and I know when I had to look at it first, I go, okay. I mean, I think this would also be great for women. Like, I think you could put it like, yeah, there's definitely ways you could do this for like external for women, this would be really great. Yeah, you definitely get a lot of vibration from this one and it can be a little bit tricky.

Like one of the things I like about Mystery Vibe so much is they have so many pictures on how to use these toys because it can be confusing. So they give examples very, very classy draw and samples of how to actually use these. But essentially, essentially, this is in some ways you can look at it as a very glorified conquering for anybody that knows that term. Right. So essentially, typically, how often worn is essentially with the penis going through this part and many times you would actually even on the lower part there, you would actually put the testicles through there.

And so one of the cool things about this is for many you know, for many men and women, it's like there's this this disparity, right? Of the amount of time that it can take to bring a man to orgasm versus a woman to orgasm. And not only has this Toy been research right for they done personal research to help with things like erectile dysfunction in men and had really really amazing success with it. So that's one amazing thing to a true dad. But the other amazing thing is think about this like you're helping with erections, it's helping with erectile dysfunction, and it can help also, though, because of the vibration that both the both partners will experience, they can also change and Sean that time to orgasm for a woman and lengthening it for a man.

So it helps bring that time to this very, very difficult thing that we're often trying to figure out in cisgendered relationships is how to get those orgasm times closer together. This device clinically approved magical to do that. And I have to say from just like an esthetic standpoint, it's something that's it's like structurally very nice looking and it's one of those things that you could like easily leave this out and nobody would like accidentally walk into your bedroom and be like, What is that? Right. So it's like, all right.

And the, the, what I read the material is that they're using on the outside is very soft. Very soft. Yeah. It's a beautiful it's I know it's a lot of silicone in here. The other thing is that's really cool about this is how waterproof it is. Like you can. Even get into the. Shower with you like that. So, so so a known or like so uncommon oftentimes in sex toy world where we're using electronics. Right. But this one is also shower proof. And like you said, it's like super comfortable. It's like fits really nicely in the hand.

Super easy to use. Yeah, it's wonderful. Easy to clean, too, because there's no there's no real open. There's nothing that's open. I mean, the only area is where you're going to charge it. So but that other than that, it's all like one unit and and so like, like Dr. Diane was showing is like the penis would go through here and then this area would go, well, I guess there's a couple different ways I saw in the pictures when they showed where where man can have this area going toward the testicles.

I mean, you could flip it around like this and then have the female partner be exposed to this side. But then just all the female partners are going to get exposure or whatever partner is going to get exposure to that side. When I turn it on, though, the that the power, I was surprised at the power behind these things. So it's actually pretty easy to turn on. You just kind of hold it down and then I don't know if you guys can hear that, but there's like different patterns and then there's an up and down button for you so you can control.

But I think what's even cooler, Diane, is the app, right? It's so cool. So you guys, you download this app and it's super easy to use. You connect it to the device, Bluetooth, very, very quick and easy to set up. It's like extremely easy to set up. And what's also cool is you can put it on your phone and your partner's phone, so maybe you want to be the one in charge. Maybe your partner wants to be the one in charge. And there's different ways, both from like a quality standpoint point as well as a quantity like the strain that this will vibrate.

You can do so many different things and there's so many levels of control and it's kind of fun to like turn that over to a partner. Right. We've talked throughout the summit and we had another conversation we just were recording earlier about novelty. Right. Well, this is a really fun way to add novelty, and especially if you're in a situation where you're trying to figure out, like my said, like, how to work with erectile dysfunction, not just in the moment, like you take some of these pharmaceuticals and you get like a momentary improvement, right?

So you can actually perform. But this has clinical trials for actually healing erectile dysfunction, not just helping you in that moment. So cool. I mean, that makes sense too, because any kind of vibrate and vibrational movement is like a mechanical, like irritation is not the right word, mechanical stimulation. And we know that mechanical stimulation can actually stimulate growth factors in tissue. So that makes that makes a lot of sense. Plus, I mean, how much fun would it be this to get this for a partner for like a birthday or holiday gift, just saying things are coming up.

That's great. You know, and they're like open and they're like, what is that really? Like, we'll try that out later. Yeah. So happy holidays to everybody that you that. Oh my goodness. So we move. On to our next one here. Let's see the next one, like I said. All right. So here we got the box Crescendo 2. All right. And then we'll get this thing open and you're quicker at opening than I am. I hadn't I had it loaded inside. That helps. Yeah. Yeah. And like, like I said, you guys like there are in like what comes with the with the devices are small pictures on how to use it in instructions.

Their website, Mystery Vibe's website has more and then they even have for a very low price. They even have these additional card decks you can buy that in other ways of how you can use these things just to keep things interesting so, so mean. It's so much support in in the utility of these. So if you're new to things like vibrators and sex therapeutic devices, you have plenty of support with this couple. You know what I like about this one? I like the fat fact that it's flat. Like it's I mean, it's not completely flat, but I like the fact that it's not completely circular, especially for people with pelvic pain issues, because sometimes getting these other circular devices or cylindrical devices sometimes can be a little bit strenuous to try to get in place.

So what's nice and here anatomically and this is something a lot of people don't know anatomically, the vagina is collapsed unless there's something in there. So this is nice in that it's you're not going to be like being yanked open by by something. It's less intrusive. Like it's only really it's not very wide and not very, you know, thick. So that's actually a really good option. Yeah, I'm one of my favorite things like this was so exciting to like discover in this, like in pulling out of the box, it's like, yeah, you look at it like you're saying and it's like this long device.

What is it exactly? But then what we can do with it is we can change and bend it and comport it into all of these different shapes. Right. And I. Love this. It's so amazing. It's so amazing. And I think it's just some of the smartest technology because there's other devices. Like one of the things you can do with this as a female is you can insert it

Crescendo 2: flexible fit for pelvic pain and pleasure 10:49

and you can work on hitting various spots that are stronger and have more erectile tissue like the G-spot and then also get outer little outer clitoral stimulation as well. And with that, what's so amazing is this company realizes that while oftentimes G spots are in similar locations for women, everybody is anatomically different, right? So now you have extreme flexibility on exactly how to position it. Right? It bends in almost every direction except for side to side. Well, bend. And so many different ways.

And you can get exactly the right spot. And when it comes to learning your own body, that's another thing we're talking about on the summit. When it comes to learning your own body and being able to describe it to a partner like, oh, this is this is where I feel extra sensation. Maybe that other area is not as pleasurable. This is going to help you find all of those areas and learn your body, learn your partner's body in a whole new ways. You know, the bend ability of this thing is just first of all, it's just even not using it for sex is just fun.

It's just like at first I was kind of scared when I first took it out of the box and I'm like, okay, I can bend it. Like I was afraid I was going to break it. But then I'm like, Oh no, it's meant to bend like easily in all different directions. And then the gynecology just in me started kicking in. I started thinking about all my pelvic pain patients. And so how with pelvic pain, a lot of times you get spasm to muscle and spasm, muscle spasms, muscle. So if my leg was to spasm, what would we tell you?

He stretch or massage? Well, vaginas a lot more. You got to get a lot more creative. You can't just be like, oh, let me just stretch my vagina over here. You can't like, you know, like even your leg. You'd be like, let me just put my leg up here and stretch it. So the vagina, you got to get, like, more creative. And sometimes we'll use trigger point pressure where we find the area where the muscle spasms and you put pressure on that area. Well, there are devices that are out there that can be used for that.

But this can also be in you could basically adjust because the other products are out, there are fixed, like there's a fixed shape you can adjust it. You just have to adjust by positioning and maybe sometimes you can't get the right angle or the right position. This gives you that ability to go position it however you need to, you know, say you're coming in from above and you need to like, you know, go in there and push on a trigger point. Well, you can you can bend it to whatever angle and shape you need to to get where it needs to be.

So that's not something I'm thinking about when you're saying all that's like that that bend abilities. I don't know if you've seen that show Grace and Frankie at all. It's like it's a hilarious Netflix show. And at one point these women decide to design sex, toy products, vibrators that are for people with arthritis because they're really looking to say like, oh, a lot of the toys are made where the position of the the vibrator or the toy cannot be done in a way where it's not going to hurt wrist pain or those other things.

And I'm also I'm extrapolating from that, that show, but it is very interesting to think about, oh, like you're saying, certain positions where maybe you can get to that position or maybe it's uncomfortable for a hand to be holding it in that direction now, because you can do all of this fun stuff, you have more options. And I love it. I know that there's, you know, once again, just like the last device, it's all kind of one unit. So and when waterproof and and easy on and off and so many different combinations of vibration, you know, these aren't your old school, like one, one rate of vibration.

That's it. There's patterns to this thing. And then we got the app to. Yes, we have the app too. And so I'll talk about that. One other thing I want to make sure we say before I say that, though, is just also a reflection of everything you're saying about your history. What you've seen over the years as a gynecologist around pelvic pain. This really is the perfect device because this is also a device that mystery vibe, amazingly, has been research and studies on, and they have actually shown that this device can improve pain up to five times improvement in just 12 weeks.

So amazing. So this is another way where, you know, we're saying like, yeah, like sex toys are fine. Their pleasure, their novelty, their connection. But we got to start looking at devices like this not as just pleasure, but also as healing as far as ways of actually healing from some of these dysfunctional conditions. And I love that these fibers vibrators have like their own identity, meaning that they have their own color in shape. And it's not doesn't look like a giant genitalia sitting on your desk table, you know.

So it's like another thing if you happen to leave it out, people might not exactly know what it is. So, no, it's definitely not as clear as like a lot of other vibrators on the market. Like what it is at all. And and talking about the app like another thing that's really fun about the app. So like that basically there's different parts of we're looking at all these different junctions along here, you guys. There's different parts that all vibrate all along here. And so with the app, what is amazing, like just like with the neuro that we just talked about with the crescendo in the app, you can put it on your phone, you can put on your partner's phone and different people controlling it and essentially you can make different parts vibrate so you can, you know, alternate between different parts of your tissue that are touching it vibrate.

There's different ways it'll vibrate, it'll pulse in different ways. You can use different intensities. So it's highly customizable for you. And we know that, you know, especially for women, for men too, but especially for women like we are, you know, as far as like where what is needed, as far as what really works for the erectile tissue to really respond. We're so unique. And then I really feel like they did such a good job with this product, capturing that in this vibration toy. You know, and we always forget and I love to mention just because we're calling it a vibrator, it's a massager.

It doesn't have to be for just down there. Like, honestly, like if you have like tennis elbow like this is a great like, like you can use it to vibrate, massage any area of the body you know, you got a back, you got, you know, like use this anywhere and just remember, like our skin, our biggest sex organ uses anywhere. It doesn't have to be just down there. So lots of options and angles and you know, we got tons of different ways that this can be used. I'm really glad you said that because I saw a picture.

You know how they said they have like mystery guy who has all these like cars on and examples of how you can use that? Well, one of them is actually using this device that we just talked about on the nipples. So you. Actually use it. To simulate the nipples. Right. And so like skin anywhere like you're talking about, like this is your opportunity to be very creative, to add novelty and and just to be curious and, you know, and it's like some of it might feel good, some of it, you know, you might not enjoy.

But it's just a good opportunity to be like, okay, this is what I like. That's not what I that's not what the other person likes. And you learn so much about how to provide deeper pleasure and connection way beyond just intercourse. You know and know to bring it up to. What's also nice about that flat shape to it is I mean, we've been talking about using it vaginally, but that shape is also really nice for rectal play, for anal play. So if that's something you want to definitely check out, this is a great option and it would be much easier to insert than other devices that are out there on the market.

So yeah. Absolutely. And there's also, you know, good reason to consider like prostate massage. And there's a lot of reasons to do that for prostate health. Right. And these are of your open to that to help with the health the health of the prostate. These are other ways you can use this. These devices. Of course, I have to we have to say, like make sure you do use this rectally at all. Clean it before you use it in other areas. Very, very well. You don't want to give direction. I was just thinking the same thing.

I'm glad. And then we have also the Poco. So this is a much smaller box and same idea. Same like I'm first of all, they got great packaging, great coloring on here. So open it. And so you have it. It just serves little device here and they all come with their own chargers. This is almost like the crescendo, but just a smaller version of it. So maybe like even a travel version might be. And it does also bend. So we do have the bend ability on the smaller device too and and once again can bend in all different shapes and, and ways.

So this one has three major sections that bend as opposed to the other one had more, more sections, but still really gives you that, that freedom to bend it in and do however, you know, get the angles that you want still made out of that great silicone coating. It's like super soft. It's almost has like a skin like quality to it and also controlled by the they get all of their devices amazingly controlled. App. And and I can't say enough about I'm always like surprised when you turn these things on and I know sometimes like I've gotten people where they've gotten confused.

They're like, I can't figure out how to turn that on, read the first or read the instructions. And honestly, the company is so easy to if there's any ever kind of issues with any of the devices you just call the company. But usually it's make sure you you charge them for a good 24 hours before using and then it's usually just holding down the one button to actually trigger or turning it on. And then it usually takes like a second or two and, and it turns on and same thing with the turning off, it's really pretty easy.

And then I'm always surprised with the power behind these little motors and these things. Yes. And they're different, like and I like I want to know who was the person who came up with the patterns of vibration, because that's something I wouldn't have thought of. Yeah. Would have been like on and off. Right. And this is got like, you know, it's almost like a musical quality to the vibration. Like it really. Yeah. It's really the thing I want to add to that. See, when we're talking about charging and power is at least in my experience and maybe they'll changes, but so far the devices I have gotten do not come charged.

So if you are, you know, if you get them and you're excited to use them,

Poco and closing thoughts on safe, versatile use 22:08

you're like, okay, we're going to do this and wrapping party later with my partner and try them out or wrapping part or my wrapping party with myself later and try it out like you're going to have to wait to charge it. So just know that when you get on, you do want to unwrap them and charge them. If you're planning on using them any time soon and all of them have just a super easy it all, they all plug in to just a USB device, those super rechargeable very very easy to use and I would say, you know, 5000 thumbs up to this company in these products.

And, you know, it's like I was already excited and learning about them and, you know, they were our sponsor but upon really, you know, exploring their products and seeing what they're doing and seeing the research and everything else. Like what a gift to be partnering with these guys. I think they've really kind of taken the whole sex toy industry in a different direction. It's, you know, it's not like the old things that we kind of used to make fun of in the past. And, you know, there's there's science.

There's there's engineering behind this. There's science behind this. It's not like, let's just throw a motor in something and make it long like that, you know, you know, there's thoughtfulness put in everything. I mean, down to like what the material is made out of because I mean, it was, you know, not too long ago that these kind of companies realized that the plastics and materials that were being used could actually harm people. So, you know, these companies now have switched to materials that are going to be touching your skin that are going to be safe and hygienic and easy to clean.

And, you know, and that's in there. And that's is a big, big thing. Make sure you're cleaning them in between uses, in between body parts of the areas of the body that you're using them with. Yes. Yes. Trying partners and all of those things. Yeah. It's very, very, very important. And yeah, you're right. I mean, I think there's been so much that has come with the technology and I do really appreciate that, that they are actually taking the time to do clinical studies on seeing things like we talked about, like how amazingly cool to have a device that not only will cause pleasure but can also heal pelvic pain like mind blown right that those kind of studies just shows about that that the level of care these guys really have for their quality products and how they're thinking down to that micro level of the quality of the results and so much more.

And I think it's fun because like I sometimes struggle with like, what do I get people for, for like presents and like, I mean even like we're talking partners or get yourself a present gives this is a gift that keeps on giving now but in a good way. But you know, but the other thing is how fun would this be like for like a wedding? Like if the bridal party all got vibrators as are gift like I. Love this. Honestly, I probably don't need another piece of bridal jewelry, bridal party jewelry or something that I like something engraved with, you know, a husband and wife's name that I'm never going to use like that.

Got it. Or just, you know, for fun. Way to start a conversation with your friends. Like get get them. Get them on some of these things. You know, I'm sure that they they will thank you their partners will thank you so. Oh, yeah. Believe me, I have already been texting a lot of my girlfriends about these products. So very excited and great ideas for gifts. I love it. Yeah. Oh, my goodness. And then I think that would bring up. Where can people find some of these products? Yeah, absolutely. So you guys will make sure you have this in the show notes.

This is our sponsor, Mystery Vibe that is sponsoring these products. So it's just kind of like it sounds Mystery Vibe, V-I-B-E And we'll put all that information in the show notes for you, but they're very easy to find online, very easy to order. And, and like you said, like really easy and responsive to contact with any questions like this is like we should leave people with. No, I just think, you know, if you are experienced with toys, this is a great these are great ones to add to your repertoire if you're not experienced toys, these are great as beginner ones.

So I think all around these are good, really good options for anybody who wants to just add a different angle into their play. Yeah. Agreed. Well said. Any any level of your experience they really can work well for you. All right, everybody will. Thank you for listening. Has been so fun to do and boxing with you and I hope you guys take advantage of these toys and we will see you on another Summit interview.